# On What Women Want ![rw-book-cover](https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/w_1200,h_600,c_fill,f_jpg,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep,g_auto/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F98fee237-ea30-417b-95a8-9408fd93a2de_736x732.jpeg) ## Metadata - Author: [[Kat Rosenfield]] - Full Title: On What Women Want - Category: #articles - Summary: insert summary - My notes: - Summary: The essay critiques the complexities of consent in sexual relationships, using Neil Gaiman's case as an example. It argues that women can be seen as unreliable narrators of their own desires due to societal pressures, which undermines genuine equality. The author believes it's crucial for women to express their true feelings and boundaries to foster healthier interactions. - URL: https://katrosenfield.substack.com/p/on-what-women-want?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=62t39&triedRedirect=true - Source File: web-only ## LLM Chats ## NotebookLM ## LLM Audio ## Highlights > It's become very unpopular in the post-MeToo era to take a critical view of stories like the Gaiman exposé, or of the behavior of the characters in them; when I suggested on Twitter that there might be some unsavory second-order consequences to portraying women as fundamentally unreliable narrators on the subject of their own desires, people got very mad, and sent me a lot of outraged replies accusing me of being a [victim-blaming](https://x.com/_grahamsurrey_/status/1879441249192788364) bad feminist, of "[dunking on a rape survivor](https://x.com/plushiesaba/status/1879405151548772653)." I suspect this is a function of that binary worldview in which sex can be either consensual (good) or criminal (bad); if you believe this, then the idea of a woman deserving sympathy for a terrible experience in which she was not just a consenting party but an active player is probably completely alien to you. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01jht6qbx8ht9sr34qgg6ne9x9))